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A Guide to Prepping for Kindergarten (The Tough Lessons)

A Guide to Prepping for Kindergarten (The Tough Lessons)

As the end of August is upon us, I have officially started our Kindergarten count down! I’m feeling good about most of it. I know my little girl is ready to learn, grow, and make new friends. But the start of Kindergarten has also sparked […]

Truth: Target Charges Admission

Truth: Target Charges Admission

Target now charges an admission fee if you shop with your children. Pay at the Starbucks, receive a Cake Pop, and enter through the Target sanity center. #Targetstyle #Parentinghack

Practice Safe Sleep!

Practice Safe Sleep!

Ok, let’s talk about safe sleep practices for your baby. You will find a number of things out there that will make you think it isn’t a big deal. From products you will see on store shelves to all the noise in the great divide between those who co-sleep and those who don’t.

But let me just say, unsafe sleep shouldn’t be a debate, nor should it be something you celebrate or boast about. You’re not a badass mom when you give a little winky face and whisper “I put my baby to sleep on his tummy, but shhh don’t tell!”

What is “Safe Sleep?”

If you’re a new parent, you may have heard that there are a set of rules you should follow before letting your baby go to sleep at home. If you’re like me, this is something that I ended up stumbling into once I had my baby at home and found myself Googling about all the nightmarish things that come with being a new mom.

Safe sleep practices are a set of guidelines recommended by the American Academy of Pediatrics to ensure your baby’s sleep environment is safe for him/her. The AAP makes these recommendations based on scientific studies that describe the best way to prevent sleep-related injuries and death.

Now you might wonder how in the world your little one could get injured if she can’t really move yet, and she’s surrounded by pillows on a soft bed, but this is actually the exact cause of infant injury/death. Babies can wind up in very dangerous situations because they haven’t developed muscles, physical coordination, or brain function to know what is unsafe and how to maneuver out of an unsafe position or circumstance.

Safe Sleep Guidelines

Babies should sleep on a firm, flat surface.

Babies should sleep alone.

Babies should sleep on their backs.

Babies should room share with the parents for the first 6 months of life. Ideally, for the first year of life.

What Happens If I Don’t Follow The Rules?

Soft bedding

An adult mattress, for example, is much softer than an infant crib mattress. If your baby sleeps on soft bedding, he may not get enough air circulation. If he rolls over, he can suffocate.

Toys

Toys are for awake, supervised time.  They are not intended to be left alone with a baby. Strings or threads can come off (strangulation hazard, circulation hazard). Babies can sleep too close to a toy and not get enough air to breathe.

Extra blankets

Babies don’t know how to use a blanket. It can cover their face and cause issues breathing. It can tie around their neck or wrap around their arms or legs so they can’t move and find a safe position.

Extra mattress

If you use a mattress that isn’t designed to be used in a product (Pack n’ Plays, for example), there can be fit issues and your baby can slip into the side and suffocate.

Co-sleeping

You can roll over on your baby. Your baby can roll off the bed. You can accidentally push sheets, pillows, blankets onto your baby.

Statements that are not true

If I am watching my baby, he can’t possibly get into trouble.

FALSE: If your baby is in trouble, say he is in a reclined position, his airway can be blocked, and he won’t be able to raise his head to adjust. This is silent.

If I co-sleep, I will hear him or feel him if he gets into a bad situation.

FALSE: It’s possible, but I’m sure you’ve slept through an alarm clock before…

If I am watching him, it’s OK if he has toys or a blanket in his crib.

FALSE: You never know what your baby’s safety or comfort threshold is. If your baby overheats or has a plush toy too close to his mouth causing him to breath carbon dioxide, there won’t be any obvious signs.

He is six-months-old, rolling over, and crawling. I think it’s fine to use blankets [or insert any other no-no]

FALSE: Even though the SIDS rate significantly drops at six-months-old, babies don’t have the coordination or understanding when asleep to safely sleep with a blanket or a toy.

I am not on drugs or drinking any alcohol, so I can co-sleep with my baby.

FALSE: No one should co-sleep with their baby — especially if someone is on drugs (even prescription or over-the-counter medicine) or drinking alcohol. But even if you are sober and as alert, it’s still unsafe for your baby.

He fell asleep in the car, so I can just keep him in the car seat inside the house for his nap.

FALSE: As annoying as it might seem to interrupt your baby’s nap when you get home, babies should not sleep at an incline. Young infants don’t have head and neck control and cannot make sure their airway is open and clear.

He fell asleep in the swing or bouncer [or any other inclined device], so I’m just going to let him take his nap.

FALSE: Most swings and bouncers are both plush and put the baby in an inclined position. Your baby can overheat. And your baby may not be able to adjust himself if his airway is blocked.

He won’t fall asleep in his crib, and it feels like cardboard. He needs a plusher surface so we can all sleep.

FALSE: Babies don’t need the plush surface like us old people do. Babies will sleep just fine on a hard surface. In fact, if it feels comfortable to you, that is a red flag that it’s not safe for your baby.

He won’t sleep on his back, but if I place him on his belly, he sleeps wonderfully, so it must be OK.

FALSE: While you’ve clearly tested the belly sleeping with this statement, this is no longer recommended. When the AAP started the safe sleep campaign that “Back is Best!” They have this for a reason. SIDS has since declined by…since parents started putting their babies to sleep on their backs.

I bought this Dock-a-Tot and use it only for nap time. I see it everywhere, so it must be safe. 

FALSE: You might see this in every mainstream baby store, but it’s plush and warm and the sides resemble a crib bumper. If the baby were to roll over, it would be against a plush surface. If the baby were to overheat, this increases the risk of SIDS.

What Products are Safe?

Safe products have specific naming conventions that let you know if it pasts safety standards for actual infant sleep. The product will be named one of the following:

  • Crib

  • Cradle

  • Bassinet

  • Pack N’ Play

In the United States, a safe sleep surface must pass standards in order to be named crib, cradle, bassinet, or pack n’ play.

What products are unsafe?

Any product that is NOT labeled as a crib, cradle, bassinet, or pack n’ play. Unsafe products typically are named:

  • sleeper

  • napper

  • cosleeper

These are unsafe and have not passed safety standards. Confusing, right?

Many people assume that if an item is sold in big name store like Target, Walmart, or Buy Buy Baby, it is safe to use. If a product says “napper” it’s safe to use for a baby to nap. Unfortunately, that’s all marketing, which means moms-to-be, new moms, friends and family that may care for your baby should educate themselves accordingly.

The following products are not safe for sleep (both naps and nighttime sleep)

What are these standards?

If you’re into specifics and want more information on the standards, I’ve listed them out here.

Bassinets and cradles: 16 CFR Part 1218

The main ASTM provisions for bassinets and cradles include the following:

  • The spacing of rigid components/fabric-sided enclosed openings – intended to prevent entrapment between slats or other rigid components that are under the fabric sides.
  • Static load – intended to ensure the product is structurally sufficient to hold the intended occupant
  • Stability – intended to address incidents where a sibling, looking into the bassinet, might tip it over.
  • Sleeping pad thickness and dimensions – intended to prevent suffocation or asphyxiation as a result of gaps between the sleeping pad and non-rigid sides of a fabric or mesh bassinet.
  • Side height – intended to prevent falls from the product.
  • The flatness of segmented mattresses – intended to prevent asphyxiation of an occupant lying face down in a segmented mattress joint.
  • Rock/swing angle – for products that swing or rock, this requirement is intended to prevent entrapment due to the swing angle.
  • Warnings – intended to alert the caregiver to infant fall and suffocation hazards when using bassinets and cradles
  • Flammability – intended to ensure the product meets the flammability requirements of 16 CFR Part 1610

Full-Size Baby Crib: 16 CFR Part 1219 

Non-Full-Size Baby Crib: 16 CFR Part 1220

Play yard bassinet attachment: 16 CFR Part 1221 

Play yard (standard): 16 CFR 1223

As the CPSC says:

“You cannot tell from looking at a crib whether it meets the new standards. It is not likely that cribs in use before the Commission issued its crib rule in December 2010 will comply with the new standards.”

Not Convinced?

My sister, a pediatrician, called me in the morning on her way home from her night shift. She said she had come into the hospital for her shift in the Emergency Room, bright-eyed, caffeinated, and ready– only to find everyone silent. The nurses told her, you don’t want to go into that room. She said she will never be able to shake the image of the 2-month-old on the exam table; the parents sobbing uncontrollably. They were cosleeping and woke up to their baby not breathing.

Doctors obviously see it all, but to me, this story (among many others) make you realize that this really does happen. As parents, we need to protect our babies. Think about their needs and how you can keep them safe.

Be your baby’s advocate. Practice safe sleep!

 

 

Truth: Nap Time

Truth: Nap Time

Nap time in my house typically includes crying from each bedroom in the house. It also includes surround sound on the first floor through the Motorola baby monitor. 

Yes! Read to Your Newborn

Yes! Read to Your Newborn

Reading to your newborn has so many benefits to their development including boosting their communication and language skills and learning emotions.

Skin Care Ingredients to Avoid During Pregnancy

Skin Care Ingredients to Avoid During Pregnancy

Ok, mom-to-be, long story short: pregnancy can make your skin look amazing…or it can wreak havoc and show up as a whole host of issues like adult acne, melasma, and redness. But before you whip out your skin care warriors, I want to bring your attention to ingredients you should avoid. 

Before becoming pregnant, I was passionate about skincare products and would research into the depths of ingredients to find out what would actually work for my acne-prone, sensitive, fair-skinned self. I was on topical medication prescribed by my dermatologist; I used sunscreen daily, and I had started to venture into the land of natural skincare products. However, when I went to my preconception doctor’s appointment, I was told some of the topical medication I was using was dangerous to use while pregnant. Most profoundly, this included Tretinoin, a retinol-based cream that I used at night to help keep my acne under control. Because this was my first peek into one of the many “pregnancy rules,” I decided to look into what other skin care ingredients I should avoid while trying to conceive/pregnant.

Now, I will say I am pretty conservative while pregnant. I don’t like to take any risks, so I am including those ingredients that are even questionable. Here is my list.

Unsafe Skin Care Ingredients During Pregnancy

Retinol

Other names used. Retinol, Retinyl Palmitate, Retinoic Acid, Tretinoin, Isotretinoin, Tazarotene.

This is an ingredient that is honestly everywhere. Acne products, anti-aging products, sunscreen, moisturizers, and makeup. So, go through that long list of small font ingredients and make sure your products do not contain any retinol (or other iterations of it).

There is scientific evidence that this vitamin A derivative can cause birth defects in developing babies. Studies mainly include those that used Isotretinoin, otherwise known as Accutane. [1] Most doctors recommend avoiding all oral and topical retinoids when trying to conceive as well as when pregnant. That said, if you have unexpectedly become pregnant, don’t worry unduly. Simply stop using those skin care products immediately and contact your doctor for further advice.

Hydroquinone

Other names used. Idrochinone, quinol, 1-4 dihydroxy benzene, 1-4 hydroxy benzene.

Hydroquinone is a skin lightener found in some face creams. It’s a known carcinogen and a whopping 45% of the lightening agent can be absorbed directly into your bloodstream.

Salicylic Acid

This is a beta hydroxy acid (BHA) and commonly found in acne and anti-aging products. It has been proven to cause birth defects. Some doctors I have spoken to say it’s OK to use below 2% concentration in select, small areas of your skin, but others say to avoid it during pregnancy. No reason to risk it, in my opinion!

Benzoyl Peroxide

This is found in acne products. It’s typically OK to use in pregnancy in small, select areas of your skin because only 5% is absorbed through the skin. However, I suggest you speak to your doctor before deciding if it’s safe for you and your baby. Personally, I used it sparingly during one of my pregnancies because I had fairly bad hormonal acne, and based on studies and speaking to my OB, I was comfortable using it.

Avobenzone, Oxybenzone

Avobenzone and Oxybenzone are found as active ingredients in chemical sunscreens. Most doctors will say any sunscreen is fine to use, but there are some inconclusive studies that suggest it may not be the best during pregnancy. Stick to the physical blockers found in mineral sunscreens: Titanium Dioxide and Zinc.

Parabens

Methylparaben, Propylparaben, Ethylparaben, Butylparaben…Parabens are preservatives that mimic estrogen, so they are not the best during pregnancy. You find them in many skincare products, but many brands are starting to phase them out because it’s more widely known that they are hormone disruptors.

Safe Skincare Products

This is where it can get tricky for some of us anxious moms. You will find all kinds of information out there about what is safe and what is not safe during pregnancy. There are so many natural skin care brands that claim to be safe during pregnancy, yet if you go to the doctor’s office to ask what safe skin care products you can use during pregnancy, many doctors would say pretty much anything is safe except a very small list of ingredients (listed above!) Many recommend mainstream brands like Neutrogena, Cetaphil, etc.

Personally, I struggled with finding the right skin care products that both worked with my hormonal skin, and I felt comfortable and convinced they were safe. Natural products seemed enticing and certainly less “chemical laden,” but a lot of them are new ingredients in skin care that have not been studied and thus are deemed safe because they have not been proven to be unsafe. That made me nervous. So, I went with very conventional products that did not contain those ingredients that were proven unsafe to use in pregnancy. My thought process was that mainstream brands that did not contain unsafe ingredients were likely very safe since so many people use them when pregnant; if there was something very wrong with them, that would show up and create red flags for further study.

So, this is what I used…

Cleanser: Cetaphil

Good ole’ Cetaphil. It’s a simple cleanser that does not contain parabens, and it works with my skin.

Toner: Apple Cider Vinegar

Ok, so I did go a little natural with this one. I dilute it 1 part ACV to 2 parts water, and I stored it in a salad dressing bottle. I just lightly soaked a cotton ball and rubbed it on my face once per day. It smells like vinegar and then dissipates. Because it is acidic, I did feel like it brightened my complexion a bit and offered some level of exfoliation.

Moisturizer: Cetaphil Moisturizer

Tried and true. I imagine millions of people use this brand as it’s widely recommended and found in every Target, grocery, and pharmacy in America. Again, I kept things simple during pregnancy so my skin wouldn’t freak out too much more than it already was. I found this moisturizer to do the job.

Sunscreen: Clinique Mineral Sunscreen

So I plugged this into EWG skincare database and it had a very low score of 2. It didn’t have any glaringly bad ingredients and it uses physical blockers as active ingredients. It goes on smooth with no white residue.

Eye Cream: 100% Pure Coffee Bean Eye Cream.

Everyone knows the first sign to show age is the skin around your eyes. After age 30, your collagen production goes down dramatically and you might wake up with some laugh lines/crows feet, general darkness, and fatigue. This product is something I still use now that I’m breastfeeding. It’s full of natural ingredients. I was a little skeptical of some of the essential oil extracts in it, but extracts are very different than essential oils themselves.

Please ask your doctor for their medical advice before starting or stopping any medicine, including topical medication and over-the-counter skin care products. This article is not a replacement for medical advice.